Have you ever made a mistake with a friend? Said something they took the wrong way. In my case it was a text or two.
The problem with texting is that one can not hear HOW the other person is saying what is written. Quite possibly depending on who is on the other end of the text, they think people always think the worst of them so they automatically get defensive. Even when the intent wasn't a jab at them, but a thought about society in general.
My heart hurts that my friend feels that I would say something to hurt them. Is it my fault really? I'm willing and have taken the blame. I could have worded it better I suppose. It was also a text that really wasn't necessary. My friend needed support, not me trying to justify why other people act certain ways towards them. For that, for not being a supportive friend when they were in need, I am truly sorry.
This whole generation of texters, is raising people to be more cold, distant and anti - social. It appears to be 'acceptable' to text ones boss or supervisor to say they won't be able to make it to work. Anyone who was a supervisor at any job 15-20 years ago would laugh if someone were to tell them how young people 'call in sick to work' It's not even a call in. They don't have to try and fake sounding sick when they just want to spend the summer day at the beach with their friends. There is no pressure. There is no guilt. It's a quick text, hit send and off they go.
Same thing for relationships these days. As quickly as a relationship can begin it can end. What used to take a couple 7, 8, 9 dates to find out likes and dislikes and personalities of the other person can be done in a day or two over text. In some ways that may be good. You don't have to waste 7 evenings of dinners to find out that you two aren't really compatible.
The bad thing about texting in relationships is miscommunication ie can't hear the tone the text is said so the recipient reads it thinking there is attitude when there isn't any. Also the end of the relationship is as easy as, "Hey, I don't think this is working out. Sorry. I don't want to go out anymore" Then hit send. If the other person wants to call, text and talk about it, we can just block them. Game over. There isn't the dreading, "We need to talk" Phone call.
Texting has made things super impersonal. While it does make some things easier. Like when your spouse is at the store and you can quickly text "hey hun I forgot to ask you to grab some milk while you are out'. Other than things like that, I believe relationships should go back to using our verbal words. Whether it be our work relationships, friendships or love relationships. Lets get talking people! Verbally conversing I mean ;)
